Monthly Archives: December 2008

Some are quick to change, others, slow

Know, then, that those whom laziness has overcome find it difficult to carry out spiritual struggle, to discipline and purify the self, and to refine their character. They wrongly believe that because natures do not undergo change, it is not possible to change character traits. If this were the case, then counsels, admonitions and discipline would be of no use. How can it not be possible to change the behavior of humans, when it is clear that it is possible to change the behavior of animals such as eagles, dogs, and horses by training?

In reality, those that deny that character traits can be changed have confused changing traits with removing them. What is not possible is the second. If one sought to completely remove all traces of anger and passion, it would not be possible. However it is possible to control and direct them through spiritual struggle and discipline, which we have been commanded to do so, and these are the means of our salvation and the path to reach Allah. At the same time, dispositions vary. Some are quick to change, others, slow.

(Uthmani, Imam Zafar Ahmed (tran:Faraz Rabbani) 2004. Sufism and Good Character. California: White Thread Press)

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An Easygoing Approach to Faith

By Sheikh Salman al-Oadah

Religion is human nature. Allah created religious awareness as a component of the human being. Our very natures recognize essential moral values. This is what makes those values universal. When a person acquires religious knowledge, he or she discovers something about his or her inner self, something that was always there.

As for taking things in an easygoing manner, this leaves people with fertile ground for their innate upright natures to grow and develop naturally. It gives people leave to conduct their own affairs as long as they do not transgress against the dictates of the Islamic faith or the rights of other people.

There is an ethical basis which all human beings share, and which Islam came to perfect and bring into sharper relief. Islam did not come to strip people of their innate ethical awareness or overturn it. Rather, it came to confirm and strengthen it.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) once mentioned to his followers a covenant that the Arabs had concluded which had brought peace to their clans. He said that if he were ever invited to enter into such a treaty, he would do so. The treaty he spoke about had taken place before the advent of Islam. It was a treaty which brought the people together at the same table to affirm their rights and their human dignity, and which put an end to the endemic warfare that they had been suffering from and that was consuming their lives and wealth. Though the treaty took place before Islam, it was nevertheless in accordance with the innate moral sentiments that all human beings acknowledge. We all know that it is better to learn from one another and prosper. We all agree that hatred, conflict, and rancor are hated by Allah and condemned by mankind.

Clemency and flexibility in religious matters restore to people a healthy outlook, allowing them to live their faith in a way that is genuine and that accords with the nature that Allah has placed within them. It makes religion easy on the people, the way Allah intended it to be.

Once, a desert-dweller came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) complaining that Mu`âdh prolonged the prayer too much. The Prophet (peace be upon him) asked the desert-dweller: “What do you say in prayer?”

He answered: “When I offer my tashahhud, I say: ‘O Allah! I ask You for Paradise and seek refuge with You from the Fire.’ As for me, I am not good at droning on the way you and Mu`âdh do.”

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to him: “It is basically these things that we drone on about.” [Sunan Abû Dâwûd (22), and Musnad Ahmad (15333)]

We can see that the Prophet (peace be upon him) did not impose upon the man to memorize what was too difficult for him. He took into account the man’s abilities. Maybe he was an old man, or had a weak memory, or was poorly brought up.

It is significant that the Prophet (peace be upon him) did not interrogate the desert-dweller about his intentions. No doubt, the word the desert-dweller used to describe the prayer of Mu`âdh – and of the Prophet himself – was quite unflattering and could easily have been construed as an insult. The Prophet (peace be upon him) did not take offence.

Instead, he accepted the desert-dweller’s coarse and simple statement: – “I am not good at droning on the way you and Mu`âdh do.” – and answered gently: “It is basically these things that we drone on about.” With this answer, he comforted the desert-dweller and reassured him that the simple words he was using in his prayers were essentially what Mu`âdh was saying – though maybe Mu`âdh was using words that the desert-dweller was unable to understand.

Indeed, the desert-dweller was essentially making the supplication of all the Prophets – a supplication for Paradise and to be spared from Hell.

Allah says: “Lo! They used to vie one with the other in good deeds, and they cried unto Us in longing and in fear, and were submissive unto Us.” [Sûrah al-Anbiyâ’: 90]

Clemency and an easygoing nature should be the spirit of our personal conduct and our social interactions. This attests to the truth that our innate, easygoing religious awareness is better than imposing difficulties in religion. It is also farther away from the dangers of pretentiousness, conceitedness, and showing-off.

We find that most of the people who preoccupy themselves with hair-splitting debates based in complex logic and semantic differences, they contribute nothing of consequence. They are like people fighting over possession of a dry well or scrambling to reach a mirage. They have left behind the life of normal people and turned their attentions to superficial disputes. They are the last people to bring benefit to others, but the first to criticize and cause disputations. This is indeed, blameworthy ostentation.

[Islam Today]

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He who shows no mercy, will be shown no mercy…

“A Saudi Arabian campaign against the abuse of domestic workers in the country has sparked controversy…”

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The Causes of Disunity

One of the issues covered in Surah al-Hujurat is that of the harmony and brotherhood that Allah has created amongst the believers. We are given an explanation of how this brotherhood is to be maintained, cultivated and nurtured and thus developed to its full potential. We are taught how to achieve this by way of an explanation of the diseases that can cause friction and disunity amongst the believers and thus need to be avoided. We are also given the remedies for such ailments and shown what can be achieved by their application. The verses of the above surah carry such importance and depth of meaning that if every Muslim was to memorise these verses (with the correct understanding) and be mindful of them everyday, they – through the application of these verses – would surely begin to love the believers for the sake of Allah and themselves develop a character that would be loveable to all. In this surah Allah reminds us that the “believers are brothers amongst themselves” and therefore we must strengthen this brotherhood, and reconcile ourselves.

To achieve this we are told to “Fear Allah that He may have mercy upon you” for indeed the fear of Allah is the most basic and essential ingredient in the creation of brotherhood and solidarity. Once a person develops taqwa and has the fear of Allah in public and in secret, in the company of others, as well as in solitude, then he will insha Allah move one step closer to sincerely loving his fellow Muslims and being loved by them. This can only be achieved, though, if the fear of Allah is truly present in the individual. This leads us to a very important question, what is taqwa? Sayyiduna Ali , may Allah be pleased with him, defined taqwa as being the ‘fear of Jaleel (Allah), acting upon the tanzeel (Quran), being content with qaleel (little), and preparing for the day of raheel (journeying from this world). Therefore, in the words of Sayyiduna Ali , may Allah be pleased with him, taqwa consists of the following four things which if embedded in the character of a Muslim would include him in the group of muttaqeen:

1. The fear of Allah.

2. Acting upon the Quran. This would mean being observant of all the laws of the Quran and the ahadeeth, and acting upon the Shari’ah in its entirety.

3. Being content with whatever Allah has decreed as one’s share in life, even though it may apparently be meagre.

4. Preparing properly for death and the ensuing journey of the Hereafter.

It should be understood that the harmony and unity that every soul cries out for can only be achieved by following the guidelines revealed by Allah. Ignoring these guidelines and attempting to forge our own way in achieving harmony will leave our concerns as empty slogans and cries for help, and never lead to our ambitions for brotherhood being realised. The issues mentioned in this surah cover some of the greatest and most important aspects of Islam such as huquq al-‘ibad (the rights of fellow Muslims and other human beings), which sadly the Ummah is very neglectful of in this day and age. As Muslims we need to be mindful of these huquq and remember that on the Day of Judgement a person’s reckoning will not be complete until his account with his fellow Muslims is cleared. If he has failed to fulfil his duties towards his fellow Muslims and neglected their rights then acts of worship alone, no matter how excessive and great in number, will not be sufficient to secure his salvation. This can be clearly understood from the following hadeeth: Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah , may Allah be pleased with him, reports that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, asked the Sahabah, may Allah be pleased with them, ‘Do you know who is the destitute?’

They, may Allah be pleased with him, replied, ‘The destitute amongst us is he who has, no money or possessions.’ The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, replied, ‘The destitute of my Ummah on the day of judgement will be one who will come with prayers, fasts, and zakah. But he will come having abused this person, slandered that person, unlawfully consumed the wealth of such a person, shed the blood of such a person, and having hit such a person. This (wronged) person will be compensated from his good deeds and the other (wronged) person will also be given from his good deeds. If the good deeds of the wrong doer expire before what is due upon him is repaid, then the sins of the wronged people will be taken from them and thrown upon him and then he shall be thrown into the fire.’ (Muslim.)Thus we need to take great care not to neglect the rights of our Muslim brothers and fellow human beings, otherwise on the Day of Judgement our good deeds will be of no avail if we have violated the rights of others.

Nothing we do, good or bad, should ever be considered insignificant. Sayyiduna Jabir bin Abdullah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Every good deed is sadaqah (an act of charity). Indeed it is a good deed to meet your brother with a pleasant face and to pour water from your pail into his pot.’ (Tirmidhi) Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, reports that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Indeed a servant speaks a word (which is pleasing to Allah) to which he pays no attention and for which Allah elevates him many grades. And indeed the servant speaks a word (which is displeasing to Allah) to which he pays no attention and for which he shall fall in Jahannam.’ (Bukhari) The importance of the rights of others is further elucidated by the fact that often when the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was informed of someone’s funeral, he would ask if that Muslim had any outstanding debts and whether arrangements had been made to repay them. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, would proceed to offer the deceased’s funeral prayer only after this question had been successfully answered.

On one occasion he declined to offer the funeral prayer over a person who still had outstanding debts, simply telling the Sahabah, may Allah be pleased with them, to pray themselves. This was done to serve as an admonition and a lesson to the rest of the Ummah on the understanding that this person had neglected the rights of another. Sayyiduna Salamah bin al Akwa’, may Allah be pleased with him, reports, ‘We were seated with the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, when a funeral was brought and the people requested him to pray over it. He asked, “Does the deceased have any outstanding debts?” They replied, “No.” He asked, “Has he left any wealth?” They replied, “No.” The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, offered the funeral prayer over the deceased. Then another funeral was brought. They requested, “Oh Prophet of Allah pray over it.” He asked, “Does he have any outstanding debts?”

They replied, “Yes.” He asked, “Has he left any wealth?” They replied, “Three dinars.” The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, then offered the funeral prayer over the deceased. Then a third funeral was brought and they said, “Pray over it.” He asked, “Does the deceased have any outstanding debts?” They replied, “Three dinars.” He said, “Pray over your companion.” Abu Qatadah , may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Pray over him Oh Prophet of Allah and I shall bear the burden of his debt.” The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, then offered the funeral prayer over him.’ (Bukhari)Even more sacred, honoured and sanctified than the wealth of Muslim are his honour, dignity and respect. When these are neglected and abused, then the person guilty of this sin will be even more forsaken on the Day of Judgement than one who does not clear his debts with his fellow Muslim. These issues have been explained in great detail in the ahadeeth of the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace,. Our iman will only be complete when we take these ahadeeth into account and fulfil the rights of others as well as the rights of Allah. Our relationship with our fellow Muslims should not be limited to the simple fulfilment of their rights but should transcend even that stage to the level of desiring for them that which we desire for ourselves. Sayyiduna Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, reports that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘None of you will believe until he loves for his brother that which he loves for himself.’ (Bukhari) One of the greatest causes of friction and conflict is our lack of respect for one another.

We hold others in contempt and are very easily incited to ridicule those whom we so wrongly consider to be less privileged and beneath us. Allah says, ‘O you who believe! Let not (one) people laugh at (another) people perchance they may be better than they, nor let women (laugh) at (other) women, perchance they may be better than they.’ (49:11)Here it is worth noting that although in many parts of the Quran Allah addresses the believers in general, in these verses Allah addresses the men and then the women again separately. This is to emphasise the gravity of this sin, as it is so rampant amongst Muslims, both men and women. We must also understand in relation to the above verse that this laughing and mocking can be in deed, word or even by sign. Although we may explain away our jokes and jibes and protest that our words and actions of jest are merely innocent, we often fall into the prohibition of this verse. It is reported that Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Masud, may Allah be pleased with him, said, ‘Calamities hinge on words. I fear mocking a dog lest I be turned into a dog.’ How many of us can say with a surety that we do not, or have not, ridiculed another Muslim in any manner?

Once Umm’l-Mu’mineen ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said to the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, ‘Safiyyah is a woman who is… (like this).’ She then motioned with her hands indicating that she was short. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Indeed you have said a word which if mixed with the water of the ocean it would dilute it.’ (Abu Dawood) After addressing the evil of mockery, Allah draws our attention to another common disease that is a major factor in breeding strife and discord amongst the believers. He says: ‘Nor defame yourselves’ (49:11) Allah also says: ‘Woe to every slanderer, defamer’ (104:1)Allah Almighty says, ‘Nor defame yourselves’ and ‘Nor defame one another’ because in reality a person who defames another is actually defaming himself. The believers are a united body and make up the Ummah only as a collection of individuals. Attacks upon the personal character of a single person will reflect adversely on the integrity of the Ummah as a whole. Our taunts and abuse may only appear to hurt another individual Muslim, but ultimately the sin, the crime, the guilt and the detrimental consequences of this defamation will affect us all. Our persistence in observing the faults of one another is also major obstacle in the way of achieving harmony and brotherhood, for it makes us arrogant and contemptuous of others.

At times we may even openly deride and taunt one another because of these misdeeds, failing to realise that we can fall into the same error unless Allah protects us. Sayyiduna Muadh bin Jabal, may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘One who taunts his brother for a sin will not die until he himself commits it.’ (Tirmidhi) Addressing one another with correct names in a mutually respectful and decent manner is also conducive to attaining harmony and strengthening the bonds of Muslim brotherhood. Discourteous titles not only offend and create resentment in the hearts of those at whom they are directed, but are also considered a grave sin in the Shari’ah. Allah says, ‘Nor insult one another by nicknames.’ (49:11)Adopting a good name for oneself and for one’s children is also very important, for everyone will not only be remembered by these names in this world but will also be called by the them on the day of judgement.

Abu ad-Dardaa, may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘On the day of judgement you will be called out by your names and the names of your forefathers. Therefore, make good your names.’ (Abu Dawood) After Allah has blessed us with iman and enabled us to worship Him, it is extremely shameful on our part, and calamitous for us to court evil by ignoring the aforementioned commandments of Allah and to engage in mockery, ridicule, defamation, and mutual abuse through offensive names. Allah says: ‘Bad is the name of evil after faith, and those who do not turn in repentance are evil-doers.’ (49:11)The verses of the surah now begin to focus our attention on the topic of suspicion, about which Allah says, ‘Oh believers abstain from suspicion, for indeed much suspicion is a sin. And spy not.’ (49:12)Unfortunately this disease is another prevalent evil of today. We merely hear someone say something or see them do something and immediately jump to conclusions, giving the words or actions an unfavourable interpretation.

We must learn to avoid suspicion about everything related to another believer: his actions, words and statements, his beliefs and aqeedah, his character and manners, in his social and financial affairs and in his private and public life. Sayyiduna Umar bin al Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, is reported to have said, ‘Do not think anything but good about a word uttered by your believing brother as long as you can find a good interpretation for it.’ No one should ever be suspicious of or entertain an unfavourable opinion about someone as this is part of the dignity of a Muslim that is more sacred than the Ka’bah itself. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, says, ‘I saw the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, performing tawaf around the Ka’bah and saying, ‘How pure you are! And how pure is your fragrance! How great you are! And how great is your sanctity! By He in whose hands lies the soul of Muhammad, the sanctity of a believer is greater with Allah than even your sanctity. (The sanctity) of his wealth, his blood, and that we think nothing of him but good.’ (Ibn Majah) It is these very suspicions that a person harbours in his heart which lead him to probe further, adding lies to speculation and eventually spread rumours concerning others.

The Quran forbids investigation of this kind, i.e. engaging in gossip and making unnecessary inquiries about the personal and social affairs of others that are of no concern. Needlessly preoccupying oneself with such matters creates a temperament that relishes backbiting, slander and gossip, and makes one explore and search for faults and shortcomings in others. Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Beware of suspicion, for indeed suspicion is the greatest lie. Do not spy or eavesdrop. Do not fall into rivalry and do not envy, hate or turn away from one another. Be the servants of Allah, as brothers.’ (Malik), Abu Barzah al-Aslami , may Allah be pleased with him, reports that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Oh assembly of those who have believed with their tongues but iman has not yet entered their hearts!

Do not backbite the Muslims and do not search for their faults, for he who searches for the faults of others, Allah will seek out his faults, and whoever’s faults Allah seeks out Allah will disgrace him in his own home.’ (Abu Dawood) Backbiting is an evil of many ill dimensions and adverse consequences. Sadly, it has become embedded in our character and we often fail to recognise it as a sin. We try to explain it away and justify it as being ‘truth that has to be revealed’ or ‘an earnest discussion of the facts’, or even ‘I have the courage to say it to the person directly so there is nothing wrong with saying it now’. Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah , may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, asked (the companions RA),’Do you know what is backbiting? They replied, “Allah and his Prophet know best.” He said, ‘You saying something about your brother that he dislikes.’ Someone asked, “How about if what I say is the truth about my brother?” The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, replied, ‘If what you say is the truth about him then you have backbited him.

If it is not the truth about him then you have slandered him.’ (Muslim) We have become so accustomed to backbiting that without it our conversations and meetings feel void and incomplete. It has become the nourishment and fruit of our gatherings. We satisfy our mental and emotional hunger and quench our thirst for gossip, rumour, and meaningless prattle with the flesh and blood of our fellow Muslims. How can we abstain from the consumption of pork and alcohol, but have no hesitation in devouring the flesh of our Muslim brothers? Allah says, ‘And do not backbite one another. Would any of you love to eat the flesh of your dead brother? You would abhor it! Therefore fear Allah. Indeed Allah is Oft returning, Merciful.’ (49:12)The gravity of this sin is highlighted in a great number of ahadeeth. It is related that once a person came to the Prophet of Allah , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, to confess his sin of adultery. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, turned away from him a number of times but he insisted on confessing. Finally the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, asked him, ‘What do you seek through this confession?’ He replied, ‘I would like you to purify me.’

After asking him a number of further questions to confirm his confession the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, ordered him to be stoned to death. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, then heard a person say to another, ‘Do you not see this individual whose sin was concealed by Allah but his soul did not leave him be (i.e., he revealed his sin himself) until he was stoned like the stoning of a dog.’ The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, then travelled onwards until he came across the carcass of a donkey. He enquired about the two people who had conversed earlier and said to them, ‘Dismount and eat of the carcass of this donkey.’ They replied, ‘May Allah forgive you, oh Messenger of Allah. Can this be eaten?’ The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘What you consumed of your brother a short while ago was a worse devouring than this.

I swear by Him in whose hands rests my soul, he is now diving into the streams of paradise.’ (Narrated by Abu Ya’laa al Mawsili in his Musnad) Sayyiduna Anas bin Malik , may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘When I was taken up (in mi’raj) I passed by a group of people who had nails of copper and who were clawing at their faces and bosoms. I asked, “Oh Jibraeel! Who are these people?” He replied, “These are the people who would consume people’s flesh and attack their honour.” (Abu Dawood) Muhammad bin al-Munkadir (A famous tabi’ee who narrated many ahadeeth and who died in 130 A.H.) says, ‘I saw the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, in a dream. He came out of this house and passed by two men whom I know and whose family lineage I know. He said to them, “May the curse of Allah, his angels and all of mankind fall on you, for you do not believe in Allah and the final day.” I said, “Yes oh Prophet of Allah! May the curse of Allah, his angels and all of mankind fall on them. But what is their sin?”

The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, replied, “Their sin is that they consume people’s flesh.” (Narrated by Ibn Abdul Barr in his al Tamheed.)May Allah Almighty grant us the tawfeeq to identify these sins of mockery, ridicule, defamation, taunting, suspicion, and backbiting as the causes of our strife and disunity. May He enable us abstain from them and fear their punishments and consequences, and grant us harmony and unity. Ameen.

(The Causes of Disunity, Shaykh Abu Yusuf Riyadh al-Haq)

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Words of Wisdom from Imam Abu Hanifa

To one of his students, Yusuf Ibn Khalid as-Samit ra for his leave to Basra:
Know that if you harm ten people, you will have enemies, even if they are your mothers and fathers, but if you do good to ten people who are not your relatives, they will become like mothers and fathers to you. If you enter Basra and oppose its people, elevate yourself over them, vaunt your knowledge among them, and hold yourself aloof from their company, you will shun them and they will shun you; you will curse them and they will curse you; you will consider them misguided and they will think you misguided and an innovator. Ignominy will attach itself to you and us, and you will have to flee from them. This is not an option. It is not an intelligent person who is unsociable to the one who is unsociable until Allah shows him a way out.

When you go to Basra, the people will receive you, visit you, and acknowledge your due, so put each person in his proper position. Honor the people of honor, esteem the people of knowledge and respect the shaykhs. Be kind to the young and draw near to the common people. Be courteous to the impious but keep the company of the good. Do not disregard the authorities or demean anyone. Do not fall short in your chivalry and do not disclose your secrets to anyone or trust them until you have tested them. Do not socialize with the base or the weak. Do not accustom yourself to what you disapprove of outwardly. Beware of speaking freely with fools.You must have courtesy, patience, endurance, good character and forbearance. Renew your clothing regularly, have a good mount and use a lot of what is good. … Offer your good to people: a miser never prevails. You should have your confidants those you know to be the best of people. When you discern corruption, you should immediately rectify it. When you discern righteousness, you should increase your attention to it.Act on behalf of those who visit you and those who do not. Be good to those who are good to you and those who are bad to you. Adopt pardon and command the correct. Ignore what does not concern you. Leave all that will harm you. Hasten to establish people’s rights. If any of your brethren is ill, visit him yourself and send you messengers. Inquire after those who are absent. If any of them holds from you do not hold back from him.Show affection to people as much as possible and greet even blameworthy people… When you meet others in a gathering or join them in a mosque and questions are discussed in a way different to your position, do not rush to disagree. If you are asked, tell the people what you know and then say, “There is another position on it which is such and such, and the evidence is such and such.” If they listen to you, they will recognize your worth and the worth of what you have. If they ask, “Whose position is that?” reply, “One of the fuqaha”….Give everyone who frequents you some of the knowledge they are expecting. Be friendly with them and joke with them sometimes and chat with them. Love encourages people to persevere knowledge. Feed them sometimes and fulfill their needs. Acknowledge their worth and overlook their faults. Be kind to them and tolerant of them. Do not show them annoyance or vexation. Be like one of them. …Do not burden people with what they cannot do.

(Abu Zahra, Muhammad. The Four Imams: Their Lives, Works and their Schools of thought, London: Dar Al
Taqwa Ltd., 2001)

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Returning the Salam in a Better Way & Good Manners in Criticism

Allah says:

إِذْ دَخَلُوا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالُوا سَلَامًا ۖ قَالَ سَلَامٌ قَوْمٌ مُّنكَرُونَ

“(That was) when they entered upon him and said, ‘Peace (be upon you!)’ He answered, ‘And upon you be) peace, unfamiliar folks!'”1

This contains further praise for Ibrahim. He responded to the angels’ greeting with a better one. Their greeting was “Salaman“. This Arabic expression constitutes a verbal sentence2 which, more precisely, means: “We greet you with peace.” His response was “Salaman”. This is a nominal sentence which, more precisely, means: “Lasting and constant peace be on you.” No doubt, the latter sentence implies consistency whereas the formal sentence implies change. Thus, Ibrahim’s greeting was better and more complete.

Good Manners in Criticism

The next words in this ayah, “unfamiliar folks”, display two forms of good manners in addressing the guests, even when there is need to express concern about their behaviour:

i) Ibrahim dropped the subject (mubtada’) of the sentence. Otherwise, he would have said, “You are unfamiliar people.” Thus he expressed concern without confronting them directly with it — which would have carried some rudeness.

This was also the manner of the Prophet Muhammad, May Allah bless him and grant him peace, who, when criticizing some people’s actions, instead of confronting them with what would hurt them, would say, “Why do some people say such-and-such, or do such-and-such?”3

ii) Ibrahim, peace be upon him, omitted mentioning the party affected by their unfamiliarity, namely, himself. This is more appropriate than saying, “You are unfamiliar to me.” Allah says elsewhere:

فَلَمَّا رَأَىٰ أَيْدِيَهُمْ لَا تَصِلُ إِلَيْهِ نَكِرَهُمْ وَأَوْجَسَ مِنْهُمْ خِيفَةً

“But when he saw their hands not reaching for it, he deemed their conduct strange and became apprehensive of them.”4


1 ath-Thariyat 21:26

2 In Arabic, a sentence can either be verbal or nominal. A verbal sentence starts with a verb. For example, “The man came” would be expressed in Arabic as a verbal sentence, “Came a man”. A nominal sentence, on the other hand, does not contain a verb. It consists of two nouns or their equivalents: a mubtada’ (starting noun or subject) and a khabar (describing noun). For example, “The man is tall” would be expressed in Arabic as a nominal sentence, “The man tall”, where “the man” is the mubtada’ and “tall” is the khabar. In this sense, a verbal sentence describes a changing process (a process that took place at a certain time), whereas a nominal sentence describes a constant process.

3 As he, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, for example, in the hadith recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim from Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, when he criticized the three individuals who inquired about his manner of worship and pledged to improve it.

4 Hud 11:70

(ar-Risalat ut-Tabukiyyah: The Message from Tabuk, Ibn ul-Qayyim, translation and commentary by Muhammad al-Jibaly)

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`Eid Mubarak!


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